(Originally published November 21st, 2021 on https://everybodymind.com/blog/)
Ever try to manifest something and get wishy washy results?
It’s not that you didn’t try hard enough or didn’t want it that badly. You had incongruence with one of the elements of manifestation, meaning something wasn’t quite lined up right.
When you are working to manifest (bringing something from the unseen to the seen), all the energetic elements need to be aligned so that you can be the vibrational match to your desire. This is the secret sauce to manifestation we often miss.
What are these energetic elements you ask? Let’s dig in and take a closer look at what’s really creating your reality and why your manifestations aren’t working..
The 5 Elements of Reality
By now you may have heard that you are pure consciousness, linked to the Source, the All-That-Is, and because of this you have the ability to create your own reality. Earth is a planet of manifestation.
Earth is also a planet of polarity, which gives us the delight of knowing what we don’t want in order to find what we do want.
However, we often get so caught up in keeping away what we don’t want that we lose sight of being able to bring in what we so desire to have.
Everything is energy, another concept you may be familiar with, and the energy of our thoughts is part of what creates our lives. You’ve probably heard of the Law of Attraction which states, basically, what you think about you bring about, but there’s a little more to it than that.
Your words, feelings, beliefs, and actions also play a role in weaving the fabric of your life. There is massive energy behind these elements too, so let’s break each one down so you can see how they really work.
Words
Every time you speak you cast a spell out into the universe. And you are quite literally speaking your reality into existence with everything word you say.
Words have immense power. Just think about a song that brings you to tears or something someone said to you years ago that you still feel emotional about.
Because the body holds everything energetically in your cells, can you imagine the damage done if you are still feeling angry about something someone said to you in 6th grade? A saying I love is “holding onto anger is like drinking poison and waiting for someone else to die” because it’s absolutely true- your anger does nothing to the other person. But you are destroying your body from the inside out.
Don’t believe me? Check out Dr. Masaru Emoto’s water experiment where he shows the molecular structure of water when it is exposed to frequencies of love and the opposite of love. Check out 4:18 in the video to see this very picture of the aforementioned example.
Since our bodies are mostly water, imagine the effects of negative self talk or carrying around past hurts?
What about the times you beat yourself up or are harsh with another? How does what you say about yourself affect your ability to succeed in living your dreams? What do you say to yourself on a regular basis? Are you kind and supportive or are you mean and abusive?
Words are more powerful than you think and when you speak about what you don’t want, the universe listens. When you focus your attention on what you don’t want, you are asking for that very thing. The Universe doesn’t work in negatives, so if you’re saying things like “I can’t afford that” then the universe will keep you in that state of not being able to afford.
Turning your words towards what you do want opens the door for you to receive. Specific words that make your bones buzz will supercharge your request too, and these words will also help shape your thoughts, beliefs, and inspire your actions, and we’ll get to that in a bit.
Suffice it to say that you should check yourself before you wreck yourself and spend some time thinking about if your words are actually helping or hindering your growth.
Thoughts
Most of our thoughts are just the words that roll around in our heads over and over. The rest of the time our thoughts seem to just come out of nowhere. Have you ever wondered where your thoughts come from or what your next thought will be?
What you think about on a regular basis becomes what creates your life. If you are constantly thinking that things suck, then things will continue to suck. On the flip side, if you think things are great and everything can be figured out, then that will consequently be your reality.
Where you place your focus is where you place your energy, so what are you focused on?
Do you get hooked into the thoughts that tell you you’re not good enough or that you can’t do something? When you identify with thoughts, you’re inviting more to come in, and since like attracts like, it becomes easy to spiral- down or up.
Along with these thoughts come feelings (we’ll get to that next) as well as a barrage of words you might also choose to identify with. For instance if you think I’ll never find love then you will most likely start to feel bad about yourself and may even call yourself names like “loser”, “ugly”, or “unlovable”.
While none of these things are actually true about you, you believe them and perpetuate more thoughts, which intensify the emotions, and can deepen the hole of self pity and pain. It’s a vicious cycle.
But there is a way out! It’s called being aware.
When you are aware of unhelpful thoughts that don’t serve you, you have the ability to stop them in their tracks when you shine your light of consciousness on them. You see them and call them out for what they are- lies! It’s just your ego trying to keep you safe.
What would happen if you turned your thoughts towards what you wanted to create in your life? What if you could hold a vision of the future version of you front and center? What if you could visualize yourself achieving all that you set out to do? Pretty exciting to see yourself like that, isn’t it?
Holding those thoughts in your mind will allow you to connect with that frequency so you can pull to you all that you need to accomplish your goals. It keeps you inspired and hopeful, excited and motivated to keep going.
If a contradicting thought comes in, acknowledge it and redirect yourself back to what feels good.
Feelings
Feelings are just the emotional internal representation of an experience. It’s how we remember the things that happen in our lives. To paraphrase Maya Angelou, “They might not remember what you said, but they will always remember the way you made them feel”.
When we have intense emotions around a memory, it ingrains a path in our body that links the two together, which is why when you remember a painful memory in the past, you can feel it as intensely today as you did back then. The body remembers EVERYTHING (and there’s a whole book about it called The Body Keeps Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk).
Understanding your emotions is the key to knowing where you land on the frequency scale. When you feel down, angry, ashamed, afraid, then you are on a low vibration. When you feel willing, grateful, compassionate, and accepting, you are on a higher vibration. Dr David R. Hawkins writes about this in Power vs Force and on his Map of Human Consciousness (below).
Manifesting your dreams and desires requires that you be in alignment with said dreams and desires. Anywhere you feel contraction, fear, or resistance is a sign of incongruence and an opportunity to heal.
Your emotions lead the way. If you say you want something but when you think about it you feel something other than excitement, joy, or willingness, then you can talk till you’re blue in the face, but it ain’t gonna happen for you unless you feel into having what you want.
Feeling gratitude and excitement for what you want before you have it links you up with the frequency of it already being done. Quantum law says we observe what we want into our reality and that everything already exists, otherwise we wouldn’t be able to think it up. If you can wrap your head around this, then you already know there’s a version of you out there that’s already living your dream life, holding a cocktail waiting for you to join the party.
How do you get to this fabulous and swanky soiree? You have to feel your way in. You belong there and it’s high time you claim your ticket. If you don’t feel like you’re worthy of attending your own party, well my friend, you’ve got some work to do.
There’s inner work and outer work to do, and the main thing to do is to listen to your instincts and follow them. You will be guided in the right direction and led to take inspired action.
Actions
Action steps never have to be massive,an all-or-nothing risk and reward situation, but taking leaps of faith definitely lead to exponential growth. Those scary steps are what help you grow the most.
But let’s not discount the value of the “smaller” actions like doing an internet search, making a phone call, taking an alternate route home, or even striking up a conversation in the grocery check out line. You never know what kind of information, awareness, wisdom, healing, and help is available to you.
And don’t use I don’t know as an excuse.That’s the fastest way to do nothing. Read more about why on my blog.
The universe will work with you to co-create anything you want, so long as you show some respect and do what you know how to do. Something, anything, is better than nothing. Absolutely leave the rest to the Universe, it will come through for you when you trust and keep the faith by showing up.
Following your inspirations and doing what feels good is a solid step when it comes to making your dreams a reality. Are you going with the flow or paddling upstream? Even when things seem so crazy out of the ordinary, you should do it anyway if there’s a smidgen of joy that sparks in your heart. That’s you being in alignment with what you want.
Do the things that make you lose track of time and that make time stop altogether. Do the things you don’t want to do but have to do (which is different than saying yes when you really want to say no) with an open and grateful heart. This raises your vibration and creates space for more enjoyable tasks on your path to greatness to come your way.
Taking action is especially important if you don’t quite feel aligned. Fake it till you make it is actually good advice here because it leads you to change your mindset and belief system through a willingness to try.
Beliefs
Beliefs run the show, and this is where most of us are out of alignment.
We can do all the right things like shadow work, affirmations, taking action, and catching our thoughts, but if somewhere there’s a belief under the surface that isn’t on board the train of transformation, you’ll end up at the wrong stop- if you even leave the station.
Your beliefs are deeply ingrained in your subconscious and they are in charge because they are the underlying energy of your life. What you believe will be your truth, and life will only show you things congruent with that “truth”.
So even when you do the work, if you don’t believe you’re really worthy of having your dream life, getting that stack of cash or meeting your soulmate, or if you think there’s no possible way you could do it and that you can truly change, then you will self sabotage from this old programming.
Things other people say to us when we are growing up often become our beliefs. Think about the beliefs your parents had about money, love, family, work, life, and whether or not you also share those beliefs. Are these beliefs true and relevant to your life now? Is there another way to think and exist?
The good news about beliefs is that they are just thoughts you continue to think. Drs. Bruce Lipton and Joe Dispenza talk about this in their respective books The Biology of Belief and Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself. This means that you can change your beliefs by consciously being aware of your thoughts.
What you continually think about will eventually become what you believe. If you tell yourself that you can’t make money or that you constantly are broke, and every time you see something nice you immediately default to I can’t afford that, you will start to believe that money is unavailable and hard to get, you’ll never have any, or maybe that you don’t even deserve to have it.
This belief will show up for you over and over in ways like losing your job, having an emergency situation, constantly receiving new bills, you feeling envious or angry towards those who have money, and your life will become a perpetual sinkhole of financial burden.
Your belief is your truth, as it is the way you perceive the world. It colors the lens of your reality and is what magnetizes you to a particular vibration.
In order to change your beliefs, you need to upgrade your thoughts and the emotions tied to past situations and experiences involving your ambitions. When you can start to be willing to believe something different is possible, things start to shift.
One changed thought leads to another, which raises your vibration, bringing new inspiration to act upon. That’s your recipe for success.
Final thoughts
When you think about what you want, what comes up for you? I invite you to notice what you notice and see where you might be out of alignment. Where can you open yourself up to an upgrade? What are you willing to change?
Deciding to really go for it and manifest your dreams requires commitment and faith. When you want something badly enough and are willing to completely trust what comes to you, those risks pay off with big rewards.
Part of the human experience is to live out our dreams and desires, whatever they may be. Your journey is your own and it’s ok if other people don’t understand. Keep going and trust that you know what’s right for you. Align yourself with what you want and step into whoever you want to be.
You are here with a purpose, even if you don’t know what it is. Embrace the uniqueness of who you are and let your light shine.